I have a drinking problem.

Hi Mystic Moments, I turn to alcohol whenever I have a problem, and I feel like drinking is becoming a necessity. I've finally plucked up the courage to confront this issue and accept that I need help.


Well, the first step for change is always acceptance. It’s not easy to detect when your alcohol consumption has crossed the line from social drinking to problem drinking. But if you consume alcohol to cope with obstacles or to avoid feeling bad, you’re potentially in dangerous territory. Drinking problems can creep up on you, so it’s essential to be conscious of the warning indications of alcohol abuse and alcoholism and take proactive steps to cut back if you recognise them. I'm glad you are brave enough to finally admit you need help because this is where so many people go wrong. Many people out there would rather categorically deny any problems and instead wallow in their own guilt and self-pity even though there is always help around the corner. Alcoholism can have severe effects on your health and mental well-being, so it is always best to identify early signs as quick as you can. It is never easy to accept that one has their faults or problems, that is just human nature. But for you to get back on the right track, it is a vital step and hopefully, a step that will lead you to a plentiful and prosperous life and one that can put you back firmly in the driver's seat in this little adventure, called life.

Warning Signs

Feeling guilty or ashamed about your drinking.

If you are experiencing feelings of guilt, you subconsciously believe what you are doing is wrong. Drinking alcohol can make you feel ashamed especially if you think that drinking excessively suggests there may be something defective about you. Or if you believe it is something that needs to be concealed from other people, as you fear being judged. This is the nature of shame, it's a negative feeling you strap to yourself, and it often plays a role in the onset of depression.

Lying about your drinking habits or trying to hide it.

There is a difference between having a couple of drinks at the bar with your friends or family and drinking alone. One of the most common signs of alcoholism is to drink alone and lie about how much one drinks on a regular basis. Because you ultimately feel ashamed you are continually trying to cover your tracks and the hide the fact that there is a deeper rooted problem. Alcoholics may even attempt to buy booze from different places each time to prevent arousing suspicion about these habits. This is probably due to the withdrawal symptoms that alcohol produces, which can heighten one's levels of anxiety. Lying about alcohol consumption is a clear indication of substance abuse.

Need to drink to be able to relax or feel better about yourself.

This is one of the most dangerous mindsets to have, as you start to condition your body to only be able to deal with stresses and self-esteem issues by drinking. Many believe that having an alcoholic drink will help them feel more relaxed, which isn't always the case. Alcohol is a sedative, so it can help you feel more at ease, and feel more socially confident at an event or help you forget your worries. However, these benefits are short-lived. These influences wear off fast, and the happy feelings fade. If you rely on alcohol to cloak your anxiety problems, you may discover you become too reliant on it to relax. This pattern of drinking may have severe implications for your mental health in the long term.

Consistently drinking more than you intended to.

This a common due to the ability alcohol has to relax you. Let’s assume you are going out for a social. Socialising is enjoyable, but it can also be slightly nerve-racking. You have a drink, and that anaesthetises the nerves with the result that you feel much happier and more relaxed. However, very soon the relaxing effect disappears and you feel nervous again. No problem, take another drink. This now becomes a vicious cycle, and even though you went out with a plan of only having one drink, you have already gone off track. As the evening wears on, your intoxication levels keep increasing as you continue to chase the feeling of relaxation. This is a slippery slope and has probably led to many drink driving offences and unplanned hangovers.

'Blacking out' or forgetting what you did while you were drunk. Having a 'blackout' is a visible sign of alcohol addiction, this is a result of drinking too much. Blacking out refers to the fact that one can have frightening difficulties remembering people, actions or conversations from the previous night. During a blackout, a whole section of the brain (the hippocampus, which is responsible for long-term memories) experiences a neurophysiological, chemical disruption and effectively shuts down. Blackouts can lead to fights, sexual assault, injuries, suicide, or even death. This is a dangerous state of mind and having regular blackouts is a severe sign of alcoholism.

Blackout Prevention Tips

Don’t drink on an empty stomach

Stay hydrated before you drink. You will drink less alcohol if you aren’t thirsty.

Pace your drinking throughout the event. Alternate drinking alcoholic drinks with non-alcoholic drinks.

Only drink when you are well-rested.

Avoid taking medication with alcohol.

Avoid drinking games that spike your blood alcohol content.

Effects of Alcoholism

Alcohol abuse can harm all aspects of your life. Long-term alcohol use can induce grave health complications, affecting practically every organ in your body. Drinking to solve your problems can also impair your emotional stability, finances, career, and your capacity to develop and nurture satisfying relationships. Alcoholism can also have a major impact on your loved ones, family and friends.

Despite the lethal damage that heavy drinking does to the body (cancer, heart problems, and liver disease), the social effects can be just as calamitous. Alcoholics are statistically more likely to get divorced, have problems with domestic violence, struggle with employment, and live in hardship.

Sometimes people need to try and see how their actions are affecting those around them. Drinking problems put an immense strain on the people closest to you. It can virtually tear families apart, with family members and close friends feeling obligated to cover for the person with the drinking problem. They take the weight of all your burdens on their own shoulders by trying to cover things up for you or having to lie for you. To your face they pretend everything is fine but realistically they are just hiding away all their fears and resentments towards you and that's the harsh truth. Children are especially impressionable and can suffer long-lasting emotional trauma when a parent is an alcoholic.

Getting Help

As I said previously, if you’re ready to admit you have a drinking problem, you’ve already taken the first step. I truly commend you, as it takes colossal strength and courage to face alcoholism head on. The next step is reaching out for support.

Depending on how much help you think you require, you can now choose whether to go to rehab, get therapy, use aromatherapy or rely on self-help programs. The keystone in recovering from alcohol addiction is solid support. People you can lean on for reassurance, compassion, and direction. It’s easy to slip back into old patterns without even realising, and that's why having the right support is crucial.

Your continued recovery depends on discovering healthier coping strategies and making wiser decisions when facing life’s challenges. Your goal is to stay alcohol-free for the long term and to do that you must confront the underlying problems head on that led to your alcoholism in the first place. Those problems could be depression, anxiety, an inability to manage stress, an unresolved trauma from your childhood, and the list goes on. Such issues may become more apparent when you no longer have the option to get drunk to bottle them up inside. But you will be in a healthier position to finally address them and seek the help you need, and this will fill you with an unbelievable feeling of strength.

Thank you for getting in touch because alcohol abuse is a topic that needs to be voiced. It affects so many lives daily, and we need to give people as much help as we possibly can. Deep down, alcoholism is a cry for help, and sometimes we need to push individuals in the right direction. As a country, we need to knock this whole 'drinking culture' on the head and see it for what it really is, embarrassing. Alcohol is just a gateway drug to a lot more atrocity, and without it, there would be less destruction, violence and abuse. If we can't learn the art of moderation, I can only see the state of this country going into a real decline. Don't get me wrong; I'm not saying having the occasional drink is wrong by any stretch of the imagination, it's more the reckless binge drinking society that Britain has continually decided to develop that gets my goat up.

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Peace out and God Bless x

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